Recently, I participated in a week long session about self love. As the speaker was talking she asked the question, “Who are you performing for?”  I thought that was an interesting question. To understand that question, you must understand the context. She was sharing stories of her life and how she felt inadequate at times as a mom and wife. Things had to be right and if they were not; she would be very critical of herself. Fear had set in on many levels and would always
tell her what she did wrong. It was such a powerful teaching. I began to ponder some things myself.

Who was I performing for? The more I meditated on that question; things began to come up for me. My dad use to tell me I was not going to amount to anything. I remember at an early age vowing to prove him wrong. So when I
became an adult, I set out to do just that. However, anytime I failed at something, a voice would pop up in my head reminding me of that comment. So, I kept trying until I got it right. I can hear you saying: well if you fail, try, try, and try again. That may be so, but what is the motive behind it.  If you are spending your time trying to prove a negative voice wrong, you are spinning your wheels. Who are you performing for?

Performing means you get to stay apart of the crowd.  You perform to make others happy – boss, family, co-workers, husband, wife, friends, etc. I think you get the picture. This was so true for me. A good way to gauge if you are performing for others is to examine your emotional responses to people. Good indicators of performing are your emotions. Performing for others will yield power struggles, anger, rejection, sadness and so forth. Performing for others can sometimes be abusive. How??? You are giving your power and control to others.  They are pulling the strings and you don’t even realize it.

It’s time to take back your power and authority. I did! What beliefs are you holding on too that are causing you to perform?  Give yourself permission to stop performing for others.  Spend time with God to get to the core belief that is driving you to perform.  Replace that negative and abusive belief with the truth of who God says you are.  Who
are you truly performing for?

Love you to life!

Sandra